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<\/figure>\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\nBut after living through all of that, my parents said one thing:
\u2014 We have no right to force a child to suffer the same life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They stopped at one child. Me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not because they didn\u2019t love children.
But because they understood the price of responsibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today everything feels different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now people somehow think it\u2019s normal to have children without a plan, without money, without stability, without even knowing how those children will live five years later. And then they post videos online saying:
\u201cPlease help us, we have nothing to eat.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And thousands of people send money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Again.
And again.
And again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But nobody asks the main question:
Where is the line between misfortune and irresponsibility?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Recently I saw a story about a family with eight children. They lived in a collapsing house. Mold covered the walls. There was no heating. A little girl slept on an old mattress beside a damp wall.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And while journalists filmed this \u201cheartwarming story,\u201d the mother admitted she dreamed of having another baby.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I watched in complete shock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because children are not decorations. They are not a way to get benefits. They are not tools for gaining sympathy online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They are human lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Real lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Every child deserves safety. Proper food. A warm bed. A peaceful childhood. Not constant stress, endless debts, screaming parents, and the feeling that they became just another burden in the house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But try saying this out loud and people immediately call you a monster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Society is terrified of honest conversations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We\u2019ve become used to romanticizing the suffering of poor families, as if simply having children automatically makes someone heroic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes it\u2019s a story of love and incredible strength.
But sometimes it\u2019s a story of irresponsibility whose consequences children will carry forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The saddest part is that children understand everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They notice when parents count every coin.
They hear arguments at night.
They see the lights being shut off.
They feel ashamed of their clothes at school.
They pretend they aren\u2019t hungry so the younger ones can eat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I know this because I was one of those children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And that is exactly why I cannot pretend that poverty in large families is always something noble and deserving only admiration and sympathy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes it is a tragedy created by the adults themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yes, there are illnesses.
Wars.
Job losses.
Terrible circumstances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But when someone repeatedly makes choices knowing perfectly well their children will grow up in misery \u2014 why is everyone expected to pretend it\u2019s only \u201cbad luck\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The most painful thing is society\u2019s reaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The moment someone says:
\u201cMaybe people should become financially stable before having children?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A storm begins.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because the truth is uncomfortable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It destroys the beautiful illusion where all poor people are automatically saints and every difficult question is considered cruelty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But children should never pay for adults\u2019 mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Never.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And as long as society is afraid to admit that, more and more children will continue growing up not in stability and security, but in fear, hunger, stress, and hopelessness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Many people will hate me after reading this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But maybe someone, somewhere, will finally ask themselves the question they were always too afraid to say out loud:<\/p>\n\n\n\n